Her: I was surprised during this time why would he look me up
i'm sure i wont be up in 5 mins aiming for round 2
I thought getting wet an discharge is an orgasm
obviously people over here don't talk about sex openly
And only 2 of my closest friends knew I was having sex
but I never had someone explain me what an orgasm is
After watching one episode of Californication
I realized what an orgasm was
and i was peeing that out after sex
not while having it
I felt like a moron
me: ok a couple of things;
women can experience multiple orgasms! so you could be ready for another one fairly quickly
second.... don't base your understanding of an orgasm on
a hollywood show
tv is exaggerated on purpose
and getting wet is just your body's way of lubricating itself... its not an orgasm in itself, but definitely makes achieving orgasm easier.
Her: You're right
but it finally made sense why i had to go pee during sex
i mean i wouldn't be drinking water or actually went to bathroom before sex
me: i have heard of other women having that sensation.... often in relation to the elusive g-spot, g-zone or whatever they r choosing to call it nowadays (but like i say over and over, I am not a qualified sex expert!)
that's new to me
Yes though I'm really scared what if I actually pee
that would be so embarrassing
I'm uptight even at the thought of it
me: you know what... try it [masturbation] when you're alone
do it in the bathroom or something....
so if u have to pee... u can pee
sit on the toilet
that makes sense
me: have u ever tried using sex toy?
vibrator? shower massage setting?
Her: Hahahaa no
I have no access to those toys
me: surely u have a shower?
Her: I know of a place that sells vibrators though
oh i was about to say
Yes I tried that briefly
because I read about it
it actually felt good
me: but didnt get you to orgasm?
Her: Like I said I tried it briefly
i got confused and stopped.
you have been extremely helpful and suggestive in your advices
thank you so much!
me: thank you so much
thank you for opening up and sharing
because if people do not begin this conversation
it will continue to fester inside
and so many questions will remain unanswered
for fear of being judged
me: its important that we speak out.
Her: and I'm glad you have provided that forum
more power to you
thank you for listening to me
and all the best
me: so lets just revisit the main points before i go so we have it all clear
a) you are a beautiful woman. dont let any asshole tell you otherwise. ppl come in all shapes and sizes. If its not a health concern, your weight/shape/size is not a big issue.
b) a lesson learned is to be wary and careful of assholes trying to blackmail you into sexual favours
c) so you definitely feel you havent had any orgasms? or that u have just had weak ones?
Her: weak ones for sure
but not the real deal
me: remember when referring to the real deal - dont compare it
but do try to go past the pee sensation