So I've been writing about swingers and orgies the last couple of times. It's been interesting...I personally don't have any experience with either - 'cept that I've been invited to some group 'activities' which I have politely declined. Yeah yeah, call me a prude. I just don't have it in me. I'm not a sharer, in that sense.
So we were just passing by this swinger's club booth...stopped for the sake of curiousity - the guy mistook it for genuine interest. He started chatting with me about how its safe and clean and they have rules.. etc etc... they only let couples in.. and even then they have the right to refuse anyone based just on their appearance...
He looks me and my husband up and down... and says "you two would get in, easy" .... hahah wtf.... I wondered what made him say that.... do we look like swingers? What do swingers look like? Maybe my skirt was too short...maybe its cuz of my piercings and tattoos - those are often the reason for people to jump to conclusions about me. But whatever... it made me laugh.
Usman, 39, Male
My son is 4 so we haven't really discussed anything except for the fact that no one is supposed to touch his private parts or take his clothes off. We don't have a maid yet so it's mostly other female family members taking him to the toilet if both of us are busy.
I think its great that you are teaching your son to be aware of inappropriate behaviour. I think every parent in Pakistan needs to have that talk with their kids.
And such experiences are never minor in my opinion. Yes, you are truly lucky that you escaped rape almost three times! How horrific is it that so many similar instances can occur in one person's life... always with a different abuser? I'm sure its not uncommon in Pakistan - multiple cases of abuse, with multiple abusers...happening to the same person. A real-life nightmare.
Its very fortunate indeed, that you feel you weren't psychologically harmed by feeling violated...most people carry it with them forever. As in my case, it was just the brush of a hand and no more but it affects me till today.
We never know how to come together to make a difference, that much is obvious just by the state our country's in. We recently celebrated another year of 'independence', another year of letting pedophiles roam free....